Found someone that you feel is special but you are in the early stages of dating and the holiday season is in full swing? This is an exciting time and an unknown time. Knowing what to do on your journey to find love and happiness is important because every gesture is noted while you are both trying to discover if you have a future or not. The holiday season brings an abundance of varied emotions from everyone. Maybe this is their first holiday single or the first time they realize how much having someone to love is all they really want for Christmas.
As you are setting a new relationship in place it’s important to take the time to do something special as you show the other person they are important and valuable. Keep in mind the joy of giving can be as wonderful as the joy of receiving. Hoping this is the first of many holidays together, you want to keep in mind that it’s not the time to go overboard but to start showing an example of how you like to be treated and how you like to show you care in a relationship.
The tricky part about dating is learning to discover the other person without comparing them to past relationships for ideas on what to do next. It’s important to define an entirely new relationship, with new memories. As you think about a way to symbolize your growing relationship it is important to be very honest with yourself as to the stage the relationship is currently in. If you have dated a handful of times and are just having fun or are you talking about becoming exclusive. This affects your type of gift giving.
Having something special to give in the spirit of giving is much better than giving just for the symbolism of the holiday you are celebrating. This way they can enjoy the spirit of receiving and not feel like they failed by not having a gift for you too.
Here are some gift suggestions:
1. A little token that captures a memory:
a. Framing tickets stubs from a fun date you two shared!
b. Have you had a joke between the two of you? Find something to keep that memory alive. Often the silliest gift are the ones you both with never forget!
c. Did you meet somewhere special on your first date? Make reservations to go back there to keep building on the memories.
2. A little TLC:
a. Does your special date work really hard? Buy them a gift certificate for a massage.
b. Is getting a babysitter tricky? Buy a gift certificate for a babysitting service to be enjoyed during a future date.
c. Create a basket of goodies from a lotions and potions shop to encourage a little bit of time to relax.
3. Building future memories:
a. Buy flowers in a vase that will be enjoyed to be displayed for all the future times you bring flowers again.
b. Put together a basket full of goodies you’d enjoy on a road trip and let your special date know you want to share in the treasures inside, as you get to know each other better.
c. Give a candle in a candle holder for a little symbolism of you when you are gone. You can enjoy replacing candles with future dates!
This is a wonderful time to start setting an example of how you express yourself. Enjoy taking a risk and giving without expecting anything in return. It’s important to keep it simple and kind so you don’t scare off your special date. Some people have a hard time receiving but don’t give up trying. It’s important to help each of you learn to trust and feel safe moving from being single to being in a relationship.
Walk the pace of the one you care about. Sometimes you have to slow down or speed up based on what they need to build assurance and understanding as they too are vulnerable to love.
If you haven’t found someone special to enjoy this holiday with remind yourself to take time to spoil yourself! Keep reminding yourself the way you want to be treated and how you will treat someone else. Focus on the fun it will be to give in the future but for now you can enjoy knowing your time will come for love as long as you keep your eyes and heart open!
Happy Holidays to you!
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