As a professional matchmaker I see time and time again clients that desperately want love. Yet when I introduce them to a potential match, that meets their requirements, they often find something that isn't quite right. This helps them to assure no progress can be made.
Watching people miss out on love shows me how important understanding the process to love is for everyone single and even people in relationships. When we were young love was all about fireworks and excitement in the moment but rarely on the depth of shared dreams and hopes for a future together.
During my years of spiritual work I have worked with numerous married couples wondering if the "grass is greener" and being single would be easier. The feeling of a fresh start gains curiosity in the unknown possibilities.
Just as I share with both singles and married individuals, it's not only about the person you are with but the person that you are! Being single or in a commitment relationship isn't as clear as it may appear.
You can be single by definition yet honestly open to however love finds you. Therefor you are in a commitment to find authentic love and not declare in advance exactly how you feel love with appear to you.
For people in committed relationships, if they are always wondering "what if" they were single and free to explore love with someone new then they are actually single in their relationship.
Being ready for love is something you invite into your life. You can look at the person across the table on your first date or your 100th date with them and realize that today you are going to stop wondering your eyes and heart around the room. Claiming to focus forward and directly with intention will give you a chance to discover someone new or someone you lost in life from taking each other for granted. Giving pause to show gratitude to the person that made time in their life to learn about you.
Remember that both people are important in the relationship, even if it lasts for an hour or a lifetime. Take the time to invite them into your thoughts and discover theirs and soon you might realize the true kind of sparks... the ones that don't ever go out! Because you cared to focus on the other person and soon learned that there might be more to this person than you originally allowed yourself to discover and in turn they might just do the same thing for you!
Be ready for love by showing others that you can love through discovery of one person and not keeping space for all the "maybe" options that might never show up. Embrace the moment to be safe and happy to love again. It can be a beautiful thing that you might miss if you are looking for reasons to not be successful. Instead try to find how it's possible!
Watching people miss out on love shows me how important understanding the process to love is for everyone single and even people in relationships. When we were young love was all about fireworks and excitement in the moment but rarely on the depth of shared dreams and hopes for a future together.
During my years of spiritual work I have worked with numerous married couples wondering if the "grass is greener" and being single would be easier. The feeling of a fresh start gains curiosity in the unknown possibilities.
Just as I share with both singles and married individuals, it's not only about the person you are with but the person that you are! Being single or in a commitment relationship isn't as clear as it may appear.
You can be single by definition yet honestly open to however love finds you. Therefor you are in a commitment to find authentic love and not declare in advance exactly how you feel love with appear to you.
For people in committed relationships, if they are always wondering "what if" they were single and free to explore love with someone new then they are actually single in their relationship.
Being ready for love is something you invite into your life. You can look at the person across the table on your first date or your 100th date with them and realize that today you are going to stop wondering your eyes and heart around the room. Claiming to focus forward and directly with intention will give you a chance to discover someone new or someone you lost in life from taking each other for granted. Giving pause to show gratitude to the person that made time in their life to learn about you.
Remember that both people are important in the relationship, even if it lasts for an hour or a lifetime. Take the time to invite them into your thoughts and discover theirs and soon you might realize the true kind of sparks... the ones that don't ever go out! Because you cared to focus on the other person and soon learned that there might be more to this person than you originally allowed yourself to discover and in turn they might just do the same thing for you!
Be ready for love by showing others that you can love through discovery of one person and not keeping space for all the "maybe" options that might never show up. Embrace the moment to be safe and happy to love again. It can be a beautiful thing that you might miss if you are looking for reasons to not be successful. Instead try to find how it's possible!
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