Dating Advice by Matchmaker Jacqueline: Love like a Goldfish

Did you ever know that a Goldfish only grows the size of the tank it is kept in? How big is your tank?

Are you growing and breaking the glass walls or are you keeping in your same circle to loop over and over again?

As we approach a New Year it’s time to reflect and own our new role in how life will be for us in 2011! The choices are to be in the same place a year from now or an entirely new space. Which do you want?

Here are some questions to ask yourself in preparing to expand your vision for your own future:

1. Where was love in your life this time last year?

2. How about six months ago?

3. What have you done to put yourself outside your comfortable space so others know you are open for dating?

4. Do you go to the same coffee shops, restaurants, grocery stores or venture out to try new places?

5. When did you last change your hairstyle? Clothing updates? Create a fresh look for yourself or do you look pretty much the same as last year?

6. How sexy do you feel? Do you flirt just for fun or keep it all business? Make eye contact with a smile? Or keep focused on your phone to avoid any chance of a spontaneous conversation?

7. What kind of thoughts do you fill your mind with? Dreams for the future or disappointment about the past? Are you excited for tomorrow or stuck in yesterday?

8. Do your friends and family know you are looking for a relationship and open to being introduced to people they know?

9. If someone “bumped” into you how long would it take for them to know you are single and interested?

10. When is the last time you approached someone you were attracted to, in hopes of making a connection?

Take the time to right down answer in helping you to realize how engaged you are in the process to finding love. It’s easy to say you want someone to share your life with and even to hire a matchmaker but if you aren’t actively projecting your desires to seek someone in your life you can simply let the clock tick on by and wake up in another year at the exact same spot as you are today. However your potential next relationship comes into your life, you need to be ready and embrace the process. Become the leader in your own play of life! Decide to project your desires of love by being daring and alive.

Ask the cute guy at the coffee shop a question and enjoy a little fun flirting. Stop and ask the sweet gal at the gym a question, since you’ve been smiling at her for the last few weeks. Take the plunge and go for it! What’s the worst thing that can happen? They aren’t interested but WOW what a compliment you gave them! But just maybe they are interested and hoped you’d break the ice! Be the person that never misses an opportunity! This is your life, your heart and your dreams! Break the glass walls of your tank and soon you’ll find more people drawn to meeting you!

Professional Matchmaker ~ Jacqueline with Intuitive Matchmaking LLC